Here is info related to the Henry Farny — Lillian (Lilly) Bain marriage. First of all, do you have a copy of the Wurlitzer/Farny history by Lloyd Graham? If not, here is a PDF: http://www.deilers.com/wurlitzer-and-farny-family-history-by-graham.pdf

Let’s start here, the census from 1880 showing Lillian Bain and her family- see top lines and bottom lines:

I have searched for a wedding certificate and an 1890 census, but had no luck. There are also no newspaper mentions of a Mrs. Henry Farny from between 1887-1905.

1900 census showing Henry Farny, Lilly Farny, and adopted son Ray Thomas (I keep transposing his names):

The final time Lilly shows up is when she passes away.

1906 death certificate for Lillian (Lilly) Farny:

1906-03-19 Cincinnati Enquirer, pg7, col7, Obituary notice published by Lillian’s sister Elizabeth (Bain) Fitzgerald:

1906-03-21 Cincinnati Enquirer, pg7, col7, obituary for Lillian Farny,

1906-03-26 Kentucky Post, pg2, col3, noting that Lillian died of a Cerebral Menengitis,

Was it a charity marriage? An unhappy marriage? No friends of Farny ever mention her. She is also not mentioned in the Graham history of the Wurlitzer/Farny clan, though other love interests of Henry are mentioned.

Finally, there is the note at the very bottom of this page: https://www.norwoodohiohistoricalsociety.org/Farny_HF.html

Just so strange!